Hello Everyone and Happy Monday 🙂

Before today, I only wrote about love once in this blog. I expressed what it feels like to fall in love, how that feeling changed me and if the change was good, bad or ugly.

It’s a difficult subject to approach because it leaves you bare and vulnerable to your audience. However, 2018 is the year of being bolder and more honest in my writing. I’ve been doing great on both accounts so far.

I’m not about to stop such a successful course.

This Daily Shatzi is dedicated to all the people unable to let go of someone they fell in love with.

I cannot speak for everyone but in my experience, it takes time – a lot of it, to know for sure that your partner is the one. I do not believe in love at first sight. Lust at first sight? Sure, it happens. But love? I cannot love someone I don’t know. I cannot fall in love with a stranger.

But I can fall in love with a friend. I can fall in love with someone with whom I shared discussions, emotions, joy and sadness.

I can fall in love with someone who genially wants to know me and truly appreciate everything that I am. I can fall in love with someone who wants to share themselves with me, someone who trust me, respect me, and believe I will stand by them, no matter what.
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What if you find that person and suddenly they are gone?

What if you thought he or she was the one but they ended up cheating on you? Hurting you? Betraying you?

What if they just leave?

What does love means after that?

I understand how hard it is to give every. single. thing you have: trust, respect, patience, sex, thoughts and time… and then being left behind as if you were nothing to begin with… As if you were never worth it. I understand inequality in relationships, when you fall in love hard and deep while your partner… do not.

I understand not being able to let go because it feels like giving up, like surrendering, like you are a failure.

But I refuse to believe that someone capable to leave me behind is my true love. I think that most things happens for a reason, especially in relationships, whether it is the romantic kind or the friendship kind.

Ultimately, every hurtful or heartbreaking experiences you have faced will build the person you are to become, the person that will know how to find happiness.

Closing yourself from love and refusing to trust the next man or woman that will want to know you won’t spare you any pain.

But letting go of the one who let you go first might.

I know it hurts, but sometimes falling apart is the only way to move forward and when someone leave you with nothing but ruins, you don’t lay in them. You take the pieces and build a future.

Enjoy this Shatzi.

Quote of the day

http://sayquotable.com/quotes/quote-about-dont-be-afraid-of-losing-someone-who-doesnt-f-image.html — Source: sayquotable.com

Picture of the day

https://www.pexels.com/photo/beautiful-blur-close-up-dawn-349308/ — Source and Copyrights: automnenoble bogomolov

Song of the day

Ryder – Ruins lyrics

Ruins, ruins, ruins
Ruins, ruins, ruins

They were like a glasshouse
So breakable
Stuck inside a mad house
Trapped in the walls
And I loved the voices inside of my mind
Will never be silenced until I can find
A way to let go of what we left behind
Ruins, ruins, ruins

Sometimes love is ours to burn at times
Sometimes the ending is your best to serve
Ruins, ruins
I gotta hunt out the edge that it wants to break
And I know that once there was a way
I won’t return to the ruins
Ruins, ruins, ruins
I won’t return to the ruins
Ruins, ruins, ruins

Beauty in the breakdown
I’m not afraid
The love you never gave me
Is slipping away
And I loved the voices inside of my mind
Will never be silenced until I can find

A way to let go of what we left behind
Ruins, ruins, ruins

(x2)
I just sort the ashes and the pain will fade away
Leave with hungry passion it’s the price we had to pay
So light the love and let the fire build into a blaze